Student's Survey REsults

We had a total of 104 responses. It is categorized into the following:

  • Faith & Spiritual Discipline
  • Church 
  • Family
  • Spiritual Life
  • Struggles
  • Responses

Faith & Spiritual Discipline

Church 

Family

Spiritual Life

Struggles

Responses

"If there is one thing you can share with your parents, what would it be? What would you want your parents to know? What is stopping you from sharing it?"
  • "I share everything with my parents."
  • "I act different at school vs. church. Judgment stops me."
  • "That I accepted Christ."
  • "I talk very openly to my parents and there is nothing I keep from them."
  • "How strong THEIR faith is and I don't share with them because then they would ask me how strong my faith is and I don't know yet, and I feel like they would pressure me to know."
  • "I would share to my parents that I don't feel like I'm loved."
  • "As a middle child I feel like my parents don't love me as much as my other siblings and I wanna tell them but they don't care and move on like nothing happened."
  • "Addiction i wanna share my addiction but i fear my parents will despise me and think less of me."
  • "About my school life and faith."
  • "School life. It will just be awkward."
  • "That my friends are the opposite of what they think. That they won't let me hangout with them."
  • "I often lie. I don't want to get into trouble."
  • "How much I struggle at school I don't want them to get mad at me."
  • "That I have no close friends and I am not telling them because I don't want them to worry."
  • "I don't really want to share my feelings with my parents."
  • "I would want to share any struggles or hurt I'm going through at that moment but I feel like they might not understand or not help the way I want since we did grow up in a different generation and environment."
  • "That i am shy in school. I don't want them to call the teacher."
  • "One thing I can share with my parents is my relationship with God, and how sometimes I don't feel that I have enough faith. My worry is stopping me from sharing it."
  • "I want my parents to know that I curse they would see me differently if I told them."
  • "To dad: that hurts me a lot."
  • "If I share it, they would probably ground me. I can trust my mom to help me but not my dad."
  • "One thing would be that life feels so empty. Another thing would be that a lot of things lost its meaning. What's stopping me is the fact that I don't want to be bothered by the hassle of explaining and their worry. It's too annoying and bothersome." 
  • "I want my parents to know that I makes me worry when my parents stress because I feel like they can't be happy if they stress too much. I stop from sharing it because I feel like they will try too hard to be happy for me and they will be more stressed."
  • "I can share my insecurities about my face and acne but I can't share about my worry for them because I think they would think that I need to calm down and that's the last thing I need to hear."
  • "I am really worried about going to the other place than heaven. I never really thought about telling it to my parents because doesn't everyone have a worry about that?."
  • "I think that my parents favor my brother. Scared they wouldn't care."
  • "About my faith and how to get closer to Jesus. I am nervous to talk about it with my parents."
  • "I feel that they don't really understand that I feel very pressured when it comes to home work, sports, instruments and other academic things outside school. I worry that I wont be seen in their expectations if I fail something."
  • "I would share about my stress to my parents. I don't want them to worry about me and that stops me from telling them."
  • "I am pretty open with my parents, so i don't really know what to say to them."
  • "One thing I would share to my parents is about how lonely sometimes I feel and how sometimes I feel like I do all the work but I get in trouble. I can't share this because I already know how my parents would respond to me."
  • "About my faith in Christ. That I don't do much to show Gods glory. My laziness and my faith in God."
  • "I never go up to my friends, so I'm usually by my self in public places (church, school, etc.) I want try to deal with the problem by myself."
  • "I basically tell my parents everything besides faith."
  • "I would like for my parents to know what's going on with me, but I don't want to because I don't want them to worry about me and so I go to my closest friends to help and they're always there for me and I'm glad God had put them in my life."
  • "I wish they would say things like 'I love you', 'You can do it', 'I believe'."
  • "Fear they will judge me."
  • "My grades. And how I can be better. Sometimes when I get a bad grade I don't show them."
  • "I share everything with my parents."
  • "Friends, I don't want my family to feel bad for me."
  • "I am not really sure what I want my parents to know, because I tell them everything that happened at school, etc.."
  • "Talking about my school. What I did. If I been bullyed. Then I don't share."
  • "That I really appreciate them."
  • "Suicidal thoughts."
  • "I would share about how i feel everyday. My parents would want to know if I'm having a happy lifestyle. Nothing isn't really stopping me, its just that i keep going into different topics and not focusing."
  • "That I can be trust more than they think."
  • "I can share anything because my parents support me and knows when I'm trying my best."
  • "Hard time in life."
  • "Pervs at school."
  • "I wish my parents would know that things are worrying me like my grades and how they are going to punish me and how they are working overtime on their job to get enough money for their kids and I think it's stopping me from telling them because if I tell them I have a feeling they would feel bad and stop working overtime but at the same time I feel like I they could get sick and would have to stop working and and they would worry about money and that they are still working and working no matter how sick they could be."
  • "I would tell my parents that money isn't everything in the world and that God will provide everything for our family. I want to tell them that they shouldn't all be thinking about money. I just don't feel comfortable to express my feelings."
  • "The one thing that I would share with my family is my social life and school problems."
  • "I would share my masturbation habit with my parents because i really want to stop but i do it anyway. I would want them to know that i want to stop and they should help me. The fear of getting in trouble is stopping me from sharing with my parents."
  • "Stress. The only reason that I feel like I can't tell them is because I feel like that stress in school in something that I have to take care of by myself, because the biggest reason I stress is because of time management and procrastination, and that's my fault."
  • "I'm not as good as you think I am. It's uncomfortable for me."
"What are some struggles you personally face?"
  • "I want to accept myself and be happy where I am, I don't want to feel like I need more when I already have God's love."
  • "I worry if i do not get a good grade on an assignment my parents will yell at me and not be proud."
  • "I think I suffer from judgement just because we're Korean and the environment we grew up in."
  • "Ever since one of my close friends left, I feel so lonely in church."
  • "I worry and stress over not being good enough in my eyes. I set standards and bars for myself and if don't reach them, I mentally fall over. I am constantly comparing myself to others, how I dress, and what grades I get; what friends I hang out with. My dad is super nice, but often he gets angry with me over something I didn't do or something small. His words hurts me mentally, and I find it hard to leave the bedroom sometimes. My mom is one the most amazing people in the world. She loves me too eternity and she is the one who helps me secure my faith in the Lord. My dad I guess has anger issues and it's really hard to deal with him. He doesn't listen and is headstrong and I genuinely hate so so so much."
  • "Addiction on phone. Uncertain about faith in Jesus." 
  • "Neutral would be the best way to describe most of what I checked. Neutrally bothersome, or something. I'm addicted to stories and fantasies. Also, music."
  • "Since I have bad acne, I'm always scared to go to school everyday just because of it and I pray to God everyday for my self esteem to rise because he made me like this and I find it really bad that I don't like my face too much because he made me. I worry a lot too about my friends and my family because they're both going though so much." 
  • "Worry- I worry about how I can impress my parents and friends."
  • "I am self conscious a lot."
  • "I stress over schoolwork."
  • "I have a really hard time trusting others, except for my family and God. I always get suspicious of my friends and i always think they're trying to plan something behind my back or are gossiping about me."
  • "I get distracted easily so i can't really take most stuff seriously but I'm trying to work on it."
  • "I stress over my volleyball playing because my dad always gets mad at me if I make a mistake."
  • "People from my school makes fun of my eyes and then I hate myself for it."
  • "depression- I have been struggling with this recently for the past 3 years. I often get sad and express my feelings out on self harm. For family, my mom and I haven't had the best relationship and we struggle together. She abuses me and gives me a hard time to deal with all my other problems. My family overall struggle with financial issues and getting along these days. For friends, I have a lot of great friends at school but I mostly feel that my church friends and I aren't as close and I feel excluded and i'm not needed. For relationships, I recently had been separated and he had broken up with me. I had loved him and it's been really hard. I have 5 classes with him this school year too so I have to see him everyday. There are days i've been really sad about everything and i don't really consider suicide but i sometimes think about it. I am very self conscious about my body and I have a low self esteem cause of that."
  • "Lack of faith - my prayers/ bible readings feel artificial. my prayers feel empty. Stress - academics, peers, sports Health - lots and lots of doctors. Mistrust - I taught myself how to use a knife because I don't trust people on the streets."
  • "I stress over my academic performance because I want to get into TJ and good colleges and I think I will live a horrible life if I don't get into these IV league colleges. I think that one mistake could lead me to a horrible future."
  • "Mistrust - I find it heart to trust people sometimes."
  • "I stress over myself because I have high expectations over myself and I have a tendency to procrastinate."
  • "I struggle with lack of faith because I don't go to church everyday and don't read the Bible daily."
  • "Worry - I worry over talking to adults about academics and problems and when I do I am sensitive."
  • "Peer Pressure - Because of my friends are all outstanding in education, and they're telling me how I should try harder to get a grade like them."
  • "I stress and worry about my future. I get angry at myself."
  • "I struggle with stress. I stress over homework and projects from school. Sometimes I agree with my parents."
  • "I stress over academic performances because of parent expectations." 
  • "I stress over my academic performance because I expect a lot from myself."
  • "I stress over school because I don't really like it. I like to use electronics, so I pray that I can focus and try my best at school, and have enough time for God."
  • "I have to watch my two brothers (age 7 months and 5 years old) while doing school work."
  • "My parents don't like me when I get a low grade especially language arts."
  • "I stress over my academic performance because of my parents' expectation of me."
  • "I stress whether if I can get to my middle school classes on time because they are spread out and I only have 4 minutes to get there."
  • "My family has a money issue, we are in debt. School - workload."
  • "Hard work in school."
  • "Stress - I have a lot of stress over my academic and athletic performances."
  • "I worry about being different with from other." 
  • "Lack of faith - I just don't think that I trust God enough. I go my own way instead of listening to what God has for me."
  • "Stress, worry, anxiety, - mostly school related B( mistrust, envy - what forms when i start to know someone really well depression, suicidal thoughts - really confidential health issues - germs."
  • "I have eczema, a skin inflammation, on the back of my knees. It has been stressing me because it looks weird and it annoys me. It has also been putting a lot of stress on my mom because she's so concerned."
"Are there any issues or topics you would like All Stars to discuss? This includes any confusion you have in terms what Christians are to believe in (e.g. gender role/fluidity, sexuality, social injustice) or a discussion on any struggles above and/or anything that comes to mind."
  • "LGBT people."
  • "Not to only hang with the friends you have but open the doors for others."
  • "Bullying."
  • "Racial stereotypes."
  • "I think that a lot of people care about social status higher than God and we have a lot of cliques and gender separation."
  • "How to not fear in public."
  • "A topic I wish that we would discuss is how to have the bravery to spread the word of God."
  • "Depression and how to address it. Also being open about your friends."
  • "How to be certain about your faith."
  • "What's the point of living life when hell is basically eternal 'life'? What would you even do in heaven? Eternal happiness doesn't exist. Only the opposite. And even then, pain dulls over time until it's all a blank."
  • "Is it bad that I don't have a problem with LGBT even though it's a bad sin? I sinned a lot but I just don't get why my mom and dad don't like LGBT especially if they sinned a lot too."
  • "Is God a boy or a girl?."
  • "Jesus died for our sins on the cross." 
  • "I really don't know how to share my feelings of God, I am a very outgoing person but if it comes to God I'm very shy and I don't know what to say."
  • "I know this is a common topic but I feel there are so many clicks in Allstars that can't be broken."
  • "That all stars would break the barriers between eighth graders and seventh graders."
  • "What do you say when a christian says christianity and catholicism are the same thing."
  • "I understand that God helps those who need help. Like he helps those who are in desperate need. But what about those who aren't in desperate need of help but still needs help."
  • "What's the deal with Catholicism?What's the deal with homosexuality? What does 1 Corinthians 14:34."
  • "Friends and sensitivity."
  • "Thinking about not becoming Christian in the future."
  • "How to respond to non-Christians." 
  • "How to not be shy about sharing God's word to others even though you are scared that they will judge you for it."
  • "I would like to know hoe to understand how much god loves me. I want to know if he loves me to the fullest or if there is still something i need to do for god. I also want to know how to speak with god."